Marriage MOT: Check In Before You Check Out

Have you been married for a while?
Ever given your relationship a real “check-up”?

Over time, small resentments, unspoken needs, and everyday stress can quietly build up. Our 10-session Marriage MOT is a gentle space to pause, reflect, and reconnect, before those little things become big things.

Why Does Your Marriage Need an MOT?

Silent Hurts

Even strong marriages gather small pains over time.

Connection

Keep your emotional and intimate bonds strong and vibrant

Communication

Learn strategies and techniques to express yourself clearly and listen deeply.

Trust

Rebuilding the foundation of your relationship after hurt or distance

Is Marriage MOT Right for You?

Checking In After a While

For couples who haven’t reflected on their relationship in some time and want a gentle “reset.”

New to Counselling

If you’ve never tried counselling before and feel unsure, Marriage MOT offers a clear roadmap and safe first step.

Finding the Courage to Open Up

For those who feel nervous or afraid to share, our sessions provide a non judgmental space to talk at your own pace.

Culturally Understanding Support

We understand the unique dynamics of Muslim and Asian family life, from in-law expectations to extended family roles, and offer guidance that honours both faith and culture.

Your 10-Session Journey

(1) Beginning

               In depth intake and assessment, exploring mental health and relationship concerns.

(2) Timeline

                 Mapping your relationship: highs, lows, and key moments.

(3) Boundaries

             Identifying where they were crossed and how to re-establish them healthily.

(4) Communication

              Learning models for listening, expressing needs, and raising concerns effectively.

(5) The Four Horsemen

               Exploring criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling, how to replace them.

(6) Attachment Styles

                  Understanding your attachment style: secure, anxious, or avoidant, and its impact on connection.

(7) Spoken & Unspoken Rules

               Reflecting on patterns and unspoken “norms” that shaped the relationship.

(8) Love

                Exploring love languages and how love evolves over time.

(9) Intimacy

               Exploring both emotional and physical closeness, and how it shapes a stronger, healthier bond.

(10) Ending

                 Bringing it all together: where you are now, and how to move forward with clarity and hope.

What to Expect in Each Session

90-Minute Sessions

Focused time for meaningful connection.

Gentle Homework

Simple practices between sessions build new habits.

Safe Environment

Structured and paced to your unique needs.

Complete Confidentiality

Your story remains private and protected.

Safe, Private, and Respectful

Compassionate Support

Equal care for both partners

No Blame or Shame

Focus on understanding, not fault-finding

Your Story is Safe

Complete confidentiality assured

Small Steps, Big Changes

Insight

See patterns and needs clearly.

Skills

Learn practical ways to connect.

Trust

Rebuild safety and reliability.

Love

Deepen your emotional bond.